We members of “Save Indian Family Foundation” comprise of 15,000 Engineers, Software professionals, Executives, doctors and common people of India, who are fed up with UN’s Anti-Indian Agenda since quite some time. We firmly believe that UN is interested in breaking the Indian family system and the Indian society. If UN or its other organizations do not stop their anti-India activities and do not stop their malicious propaganda against India, we will start large scale protests against UN all over India. We are certain it will not help UN as Indian’s love their family system and they will not love any agency which promotes family breaking. India has 1/6th of World’s population.
Firstly, we do not understand why UN works like a dictator and why the people running it have such a terrible problem with “Integrity”.
We feel, it is important UN and its Secretary General wake up to face some constructive criticism and cleans up the “Integrity Issues”.
UN has a lot of explaining to do as it seems to have come out with an agenda against “Family System” in India due to lobbying by some western countries.
We will show how actions of UN, UNICEF and UNDP are actually contributing the “Female Foeticide” in India instead of reducing it.
1) In 2006, UN claimed in Indian Media that 70% of Indian Women Face domestic Violence (DV) UN, UNDP or UNFPA never conducted any study or survey which has established this fact or proved this statistics. In fact, one page in UNFPA website says, the domestic violence percentage in India (against women) is just 19%.
It clearly shows that UN and its officials lack Integrity and have lied in Indian Media.
How the hell are such horrendous lies propagated about India by UN officials?
Refer to this false story planted by the UN.
Here is the complete argument:
Certain Radical Western elements are controlling the policies in UN and they have a “racial bias” against Asians and especially Indians.
2) In 2006, UNICEF executive director Ann M. Veneman made false claims.
She claimed that 25,000 women are killed “every year” for dowry in India. Here is the proof.
There is no source of any kind which has established this fact that 25000 numbers of women are killed for dowry. In fact, the total “convictions” for “dowry deaths + DV deaths” in year 2006 is 1830 (refer: Indian National Crime Records Bureau at website ncrb.nic.in).
These deaths in India are almost half of similar deaths in US (if you normalize populations of both countries).Why did she lie and why did she quoted false statistics?
Why is the UNICEF executive director creating a panic by uttering lies?
I do not like to make any personal criticisms. However, people holding the high positions should have some elementary levels of Integrity.
If UN says that 25,000 women are killed for dowry every year in India, then no one will wish to have a girl in their house, as they think the girl will only be a victim, a burden and she will bring tears. The reality is, women are 2 times safer in Indian homes than in US homes. Thanks to UN and UNICEF, the panic is created in Indian society and Indian Family system is maligned all over the world. The Indians today are afraid of having a girl child.
We challenge UN officials to come and prove their assertions on dowry deaths in India.
3) The outrageous, false propaganda unleashed by UN (and the organisations it funds) about 70% women being beaten, kicked, hit, slapped and burnt for dowry, has created massive panic in India.
UN is a very credible source and hence everyone believes it. Media writes about it. So, Indians today believe that if they have a daughter (born into the family), then 70% chance that she will be burnt, beaten, raped, hit, slapped.
These lies by UN officials is creating huge problem for our society and people are rushing to clinics to abort the girl child.
4) A boy in India brings 3 times more misery to parents than the girls. A boy has 3 times more chance of getting kidnapped. A man has 3 times more chance to get murdered, commit suicide or die in an accident compared to a woman. However, UN never talks about the disadvantages that boys bring and only harps of why it is dangerous to be a woman or girl in India.
5) Increasing divorces, family breaking and single parenting has resulted in increase in crimes in US. However, UN conveniently ignores these social issues. Children from single parent families in US have 9 times more chance to commit crime.
Why are UN policies so reductionist while dealing with complex social systems?
Why is UN not even ready to discuss?
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Social situations are complex. Societies across the world are complex. How can UN recommend some very “simple reductionist solutions” for the complex problems related to family system and sometimes force it on nations?
Common sense says, the more you focus on a problem/concern, the problem or concern increases. Is UN feeding energy to concerns or working on influences?
By focusing on women’s issues in a radical manner and by representing them as victims by using false statistics for years, is UN solving the problems or increasing the intensity of the problems?
If UN do not stop the anti-Indian, anti-social activities by planting false statistics in Media, we as an advocacy group of 15,000 members in India and world, will start street protests against UN’s ill designed insensitive policies. It is 15,000 angry Indian families, who see UN as an organisation that has propagated false stories and rumours about India, Indian society and Indian Family system.
If UN is so sincere about the plight of women in South Asian, then what the hell UN is doing about 1,20,645 women who are arrested in India in last 4 years without trial or investigation under section 498a of Indian penal code(IPC). In fact, UNIFEM supports Section 498a of IPC.
We support 50% reservation for women in Indian parliament. We are not a bunch of conservative regressive religious zealots.
We are not begging UN to change or stop propagating false stories about societies in member nations.
UN, UNICEF, UNDP, UNFPA and every official has the choice. The officials there can keep continuing with the lies, false statistics and claim that they are making a difference in the world.
We have no expectations what so ever from UN or UNDP or UNICEF. We will do our work to safe guard our nation and other Asian Nations. However, we will hold every person who works for UN accountable for the consequences of the misadventures.
Monday, June 30, 2008
29 Point Agenda to counter Legal Terrorism
We would recommend the following :
1. To convert section 498A into a bailable one.
2. To convert section 498A into a compoundable one.
3. A circular should be immediately issued to all the Police Stations in the country with specific directions not to arrest any person u/s 498A and 406 without thorough investigations and attempts of counseling where the wife is alive. If any arrest is made, it should be officially signed and authorized by a SP or DC rank and the police should be made to justify the arrest with prima facie evidence.
4. The learned court could carefully consider whether the allegations of the bride are indeed genuine at least against the in-laws or other relatives of the husband when it directs investigation under section 156(3) of CrPC for an offence under section 498A.
5. The Learned court could carefully take into account whether custodial detention is at all needed for the in-laws and other relatives.
6. Arrest should be made only after getting orders from the Magistrate after primary investigation and producing facts and evidences before the Magistrate
7. Arrest should not be made before trial in cases where the wife is alive.
8. Sections 120B, 177, 182, 211, 199, 200, 209, 499 and 500 of IPC should be extensively used against false complainants.
9. If a wife files 498A, the husband should be allowed immediate divorce.
10. At the stage of counseling before 498A, the parents and/or relatives of the wife should be strictly prohibited to interfere in the family matter of the daughter. If the in-laws are blamed, after investigation, the in-laws should be separated from the son of the family. The husband and wife should be asked to stay separately.
11. Counseling if any should be brought out of the ambit of police or government officials and be handed over to different NGO’s working in this field hence making sure that it is a real counseling and not a threatening process.
12. To replace the word “husband” or “wife” with the word “spouse in all related laws, so as to ensure equality in law for men and women.
13. Make provisions for a man to file complaint when a wife and in-laws harass him and commit cruelty. Create sections 498B and 304C in IPC to protect men and women in his family when the perpetrators of crime are daughters-in-law and their family.
14. Make provision for penalty on a false complaint by amending IPC 498A. Lodging a complaint u/s 498A IPC has become a tool of manipulation, legal blackmail and legal terrorism in the hands of certain unscrupulous people.
15. Speedy and fair trial in all marital disputes.
16. Make registration of marriages compulsory. Gifts at time of marriage must be listed and photographed.
17. Make extensive use of section 3 and 4 of the Dowry Prevention Act.
18. Strict conviction of either the complainant or the defendant.
19. No negotiations be allowed at the cost of money/property/gift whatsoever and the faulty should be severely punished.
20. For any negotiation or exchange of amounts made, both the parties should be made liable for prosecution on recommendation of a third party.
21. Ensure fair and unbiased investigation & trial of Dowry related complaints, which is totally in favor of daughter-in-law and disregards the trauma caused to mothers and sisters due to a false complaint. Judiciary and enforcement agencies must recognize the possibility of wives and daughter-in-law maltreating the husband and old in-laws or other vulnerable members of the husband’s family.
22. Distant relatives not routinely living with the couple should not be allowed to be named in the complaint and excluded routinely.
23. Fathers should not be routinely deprived of child custody by assuming mother is the best for the child. Child should not be made to choose between parents and joint custody be preferred.
24. No Passport surrender and unnecessary travel restrictions should be imposed at the time of bail. Passports should not be impounded and restrictions of going abroad where wife is alive should be lifted with a condition that the husband should appear in the court as and when summoned.
25. Elder abuse in the name of IPC 498A should be absolutely stopped.
26. Government employees should not face compulsory suspension in case arrested due to a false complaint.
27. Legislation involving domestic issues should be enacted keeping in view the preservation of institution of marriage and not based on gender bias.
28. 82% of the individual income tax collected in the country is paid by men. Spending is all done for women only. Animals in the country have a welfare ministry. Now is a need for opening of a Men’s welfare ministry.
29. Unlike the Crime Against Women Cells, Crime Against Men Cells are also becoming need of the hour.
1. To convert section 498A into a bailable one.
2. To convert section 498A into a compoundable one.
3. A circular should be immediately issued to all the Police Stations in the country with specific directions not to arrest any person u/s 498A and 406 without thorough investigations and attempts of counseling where the wife is alive. If any arrest is made, it should be officially signed and authorized by a SP or DC rank and the police should be made to justify the arrest with prima facie evidence.
4. The learned court could carefully consider whether the allegations of the bride are indeed genuine at least against the in-laws or other relatives of the husband when it directs investigation under section 156(3) of CrPC for an offence under section 498A.
5. The Learned court could carefully take into account whether custodial detention is at all needed for the in-laws and other relatives.
6. Arrest should be made only after getting orders from the Magistrate after primary investigation and producing facts and evidences before the Magistrate
7. Arrest should not be made before trial in cases where the wife is alive.
8. Sections 120B, 177, 182, 211, 199, 200, 209, 499 and 500 of IPC should be extensively used against false complainants.
9. If a wife files 498A, the husband should be allowed immediate divorce.
10. At the stage of counseling before 498A, the parents and/or relatives of the wife should be strictly prohibited to interfere in the family matter of the daughter. If the in-laws are blamed, after investigation, the in-laws should be separated from the son of the family. The husband and wife should be asked to stay separately.
11. Counseling if any should be brought out of the ambit of police or government officials and be handed over to different NGO’s working in this field hence making sure that it is a real counseling and not a threatening process.
12. To replace the word “husband” or “wife” with the word “spouse in all related laws, so as to ensure equality in law for men and women.
13. Make provisions for a man to file complaint when a wife and in-laws harass him and commit cruelty. Create sections 498B and 304C in IPC to protect men and women in his family when the perpetrators of crime are daughters-in-law and their family.
14. Make provision for penalty on a false complaint by amending IPC 498A. Lodging a complaint u/s 498A IPC has become a tool of manipulation, legal blackmail and legal terrorism in the hands of certain unscrupulous people.
15. Speedy and fair trial in all marital disputes.
16. Make registration of marriages compulsory. Gifts at time of marriage must be listed and photographed.
17. Make extensive use of section 3 and 4 of the Dowry Prevention Act.
18. Strict conviction of either the complainant or the defendant.
19. No negotiations be allowed at the cost of money/property/gift whatsoever and the faulty should be severely punished.
20. For any negotiation or exchange of amounts made, both the parties should be made liable for prosecution on recommendation of a third party.
21. Ensure fair and unbiased investigation & trial of Dowry related complaints, which is totally in favor of daughter-in-law and disregards the trauma caused to mothers and sisters due to a false complaint. Judiciary and enforcement agencies must recognize the possibility of wives and daughter-in-law maltreating the husband and old in-laws or other vulnerable members of the husband’s family.
22. Distant relatives not routinely living with the couple should not be allowed to be named in the complaint and excluded routinely.
23. Fathers should not be routinely deprived of child custody by assuming mother is the best for the child. Child should not be made to choose between parents and joint custody be preferred.
24. No Passport surrender and unnecessary travel restrictions should be imposed at the time of bail. Passports should not be impounded and restrictions of going abroad where wife is alive should be lifted with a condition that the husband should appear in the court as and when summoned.
25. Elder abuse in the name of IPC 498A should be absolutely stopped.
26. Government employees should not face compulsory suspension in case arrested due to a false complaint.
27. Legislation involving domestic issues should be enacted keeping in view the preservation of institution of marriage and not based on gender bias.
28. 82% of the individual income tax collected in the country is paid by men. Spending is all done for women only. Animals in the country have a welfare ministry. Now is a need for opening of a Men’s welfare ministry.
29. Unlike the Crime Against Women Cells, Crime Against Men Cells are also becoming need of the hour.
Open Letter to the Director, WCD Karnataka
Hello Madam,
As I understand you are the director of Women and Child Development in Karnataka. I would like to put this question to you, as to what is the WCD ministry doing for lakhs of those innocent suffering women who are thrusted to jail on mere allegations (true or false) of mental harassment and torture related to dowry.
I am writing this email from my son’s email id. My name is Neena R Dhulia. I am a 60 year old woman who has to attend court dates every month, here in Bangalore for my estranged Daughter -in - law has filed 3 false cases implicating me, my aged and ailing husband and my 27 year old young son. One case has been filed in Kolkata for which my son has to make monthly trips to Kolkata taking leaves from office. My husband is suffering from asthma, chronic bronchitis and is retired. We are solely dependent on our only son for all expenses.
Here is the brief of the ordeal we went thro’ and are still undergoing and if you do not help us, it will continue without any end.
My son’s was an arranged marriage and it took place on 12th Feb 2007 in Kolkata. No sooner after the marriage it came to forth that the girl, Viral Goda (maiden name) had serious psychological and behavioral problems. She was suffering from extreme mood swing and was used to utter habitual lies. Within just 2 months of the marriage, she went to her parents’ place for some days. My son also booked a flght ticket for her as demanded by her father. After going there, her behavior changed very much. She stopped talking to us and within 2 weeks her father refused to send her back, till her ‘conditions’ are satisfied and refused to disclose the same. After that they went incommunicado over phone. My son could not take leaves from office, so he sent her a plain letter asking her to come back. She did not come back. After about a month or so, my husband went to Kolkata, struggling with his dwindling health, to bring her back.
She insulted him badly in front of our relatives and said that my son will have to sign on 10 of her and 6 of her father’s conditions and then only will she ‘think’ of returning. They did not even disclose their conditions and kept pressurizing for my son to go to Kolkata from Bangalore to sign the conditions. They had visited all our relatives’ place and defamed us so much (and specifically me) with false and concocted stories convincing them so much, that no one came forth to our help. We kept them requesting for an amicable settlement, but they never listened to us. Suddenly on 10th September 2007, they landed at our place with the local police and blamed us for ‘Harassing her for dowry’. This was a totally baseless and false allegation as we are Gujarati Jains and there is no Dowry system in our community. Soon their agenda became clear when they demanded 12 lacs rupees in front of the police for not filing the case. Even the police did not listen to us. My son kept pleading to the officer to give him a chance to present our side of the story. But the police officer was in no mood to listen. He also behaved very badly with me and talked to in a manner very unbecoming of a police officer of the rank of SHO talking to an elderly woman. When we failed to satisfy their illegal demands, they filed the case with the cock and bull story they told the police. We were kept in over night police custody. Next day me and my husband were granted bail on health grounds and my son was sent to the Central Jail for 2 days. They also bribed the PP to object for my son’s bail for at least 15 days. But the learned judge granted bail to my son. It has been almost 10 months now since then and apart from court dates, nothing much has happened. In addition they filed cases on us under Domestic Violence Act 2005, 125 CrPC. She has demanded 30, 000 per month as maintenance in Bangalore in DV Act and 30,000 in maintenance. Already she is getting interim Rs. 2500 per month as maintenance under Domestic Violence Act. All this happened to us just because she is a ‘married woman’ and has cried hoarse of dowry harassment. We were put to jail without trial.
They even got this printed in the Times Of India, pg 3, 13 Sept 2007, Bangalore Edition. Why is the media so biased? Even before the case has gone to trial, they have published the verdict. Why is your department not taking action against such biased media reports?? Such false reports are poisoning our society and strangulating the family system of India. People, knowing that they may get a girl child are heading towards abortion as they fear that there are 80 % chances that their daughter will be killed, kicked, raped or tortured for dowry, as published by UN. Why is your department not taking objection to these false and baseless reports adversely brainwashing the mindset of the common people?
This is just a brief version. There are many more things that happened to us. But what I want to know from you is, does your esteemed ministry consider the mothers and sisters of a married Indian male as women? If it does so, then how come in the last 4 years, 95, 000 innocent women have been arrested on mere complaints, without any trial being conducted and your esteemed department is totally mum about it? The laws meant to protect a woman are working against them. For every complaint of dowry harassment made by one woman, there are on an average 3-4 women who are harassed by the police and later it is found that the matter is settled out of court with payment to girls side to the tune of lacs. One word, DOWRY, a married woman utters in front of the police to hide all her follies and the whole family of the in - laws is devastated and treated worst then hardcore criminals like murderers, rapists, burglars and dacoits. Is this the era of Women Liberation for which such laws were passed ??
Why is it that your department is not vouching to fight against this misuse of dowry laws rather than spreading false statistics. A study conducted by Center for Social Research shows that the misuse is to the tune of 98 %. And yet such a law is let loose for Legal Terrorism to be unleashed on innocent law abiding and honest tax paying citizens of India and that too in today’s era of WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.
Is this what your department calls for WOMEN EMPOWERMENT that when a girl fails to deliver her role in a marriage because of her parents’ faulty upbringing, the blame has to be happily passed over to innocent in-laws and terrorise them to coerce them for a payment of the girls’ misdeeds and follies.
This is not only just my case. My son has joined an NGO called Save Indian Family Foundation, that is dedicated to the cause of creating awareness against this ongoing Legal Terrorism and help its victims. Just in Bangalore, alone every week he says, he gets around 8 - 10 new cases and these are the ones who have somewhere heard about the NGO and approach them for help. There are many many silent victims who are dying a slow death everyday as they have no one to listen to theri woes or help them.
As I understand you are the director of Women and Child Development in Karnataka. I would like to put this question to you, as to what is the WCD ministry doing for lakhs of those innocent suffering women who are thrusted to jail on mere allegations (true or false) of mental harassment and torture related to dowry.
I am writing this email from my son’s email id. My name is Neena R Dhulia. I am a 60 year old woman who has to attend court dates every month, here in Bangalore for my estranged Daughter -in - law has filed 3 false cases implicating me, my aged and ailing husband and my 27 year old young son. One case has been filed in Kolkata for which my son has to make monthly trips to Kolkata taking leaves from office. My husband is suffering from asthma, chronic bronchitis and is retired. We are solely dependent on our only son for all expenses.
Here is the brief of the ordeal we went thro’ and are still undergoing and if you do not help us, it will continue without any end.
My son’s was an arranged marriage and it took place on 12th Feb 2007 in Kolkata. No sooner after the marriage it came to forth that the girl, Viral Goda (maiden name) had serious psychological and behavioral problems. She was suffering from extreme mood swing and was used to utter habitual lies. Within just 2 months of the marriage, she went to her parents’ place for some days. My son also booked a flght ticket for her as demanded by her father. After going there, her behavior changed very much. She stopped talking to us and within 2 weeks her father refused to send her back, till her ‘conditions’ are satisfied and refused to disclose the same. After that they went incommunicado over phone. My son could not take leaves from office, so he sent her a plain letter asking her to come back. She did not come back. After about a month or so, my husband went to Kolkata, struggling with his dwindling health, to bring her back.
She insulted him badly in front of our relatives and said that my son will have to sign on 10 of her and 6 of her father’s conditions and then only will she ‘think’ of returning. They did not even disclose their conditions and kept pressurizing for my son to go to Kolkata from Bangalore to sign the conditions. They had visited all our relatives’ place and defamed us so much (and specifically me) with false and concocted stories convincing them so much, that no one came forth to our help. We kept them requesting for an amicable settlement, but they never listened to us. Suddenly on 10th September 2007, they landed at our place with the local police and blamed us for ‘Harassing her for dowry’. This was a totally baseless and false allegation as we are Gujarati Jains and there is no Dowry system in our community. Soon their agenda became clear when they demanded 12 lacs rupees in front of the police for not filing the case. Even the police did not listen to us. My son kept pleading to the officer to give him a chance to present our side of the story. But the police officer was in no mood to listen. He also behaved very badly with me and talked to in a manner very unbecoming of a police officer of the rank of SHO talking to an elderly woman. When we failed to satisfy their illegal demands, they filed the case with the cock and bull story they told the police. We were kept in over night police custody. Next day me and my husband were granted bail on health grounds and my son was sent to the Central Jail for 2 days. They also bribed the PP to object for my son’s bail for at least 15 days. But the learned judge granted bail to my son. It has been almost 10 months now since then and apart from court dates, nothing much has happened. In addition they filed cases on us under Domestic Violence Act 2005, 125 CrPC. She has demanded 30, 000 per month as maintenance in Bangalore in DV Act and 30,000 in maintenance. Already she is getting interim Rs. 2500 per month as maintenance under Domestic Violence Act. All this happened to us just because she is a ‘married woman’ and has cried hoarse of dowry harassment. We were put to jail without trial.
They even got this printed in the Times Of India, pg 3, 13 Sept 2007, Bangalore Edition. Why is the media so biased? Even before the case has gone to trial, they have published the verdict. Why is your department not taking action against such biased media reports?? Such false reports are poisoning our society and strangulating the family system of India. People, knowing that they may get a girl child are heading towards abortion as they fear that there are 80 % chances that their daughter will be killed, kicked, raped or tortured for dowry, as published by UN. Why is your department not taking objection to these false and baseless reports adversely brainwashing the mindset of the common people?
This is just a brief version. There are many more things that happened to us. But what I want to know from you is, does your esteemed ministry consider the mothers and sisters of a married Indian male as women? If it does so, then how come in the last 4 years, 95, 000 innocent women have been arrested on mere complaints, without any trial being conducted and your esteemed department is totally mum about it? The laws meant to protect a woman are working against them. For every complaint of dowry harassment made by one woman, there are on an average 3-4 women who are harassed by the police and later it is found that the matter is settled out of court with payment to girls side to the tune of lacs. One word, DOWRY, a married woman utters in front of the police to hide all her follies and the whole family of the in - laws is devastated and treated worst then hardcore criminals like murderers, rapists, burglars and dacoits. Is this the era of Women Liberation for which such laws were passed ??
Why is it that your department is not vouching to fight against this misuse of dowry laws rather than spreading false statistics. A study conducted by Center for Social Research shows that the misuse is to the tune of 98 %. And yet such a law is let loose for Legal Terrorism to be unleashed on innocent law abiding and honest tax paying citizens of India and that too in today’s era of WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.
Is this what your department calls for WOMEN EMPOWERMENT that when a girl fails to deliver her role in a marriage because of her parents’ faulty upbringing, the blame has to be happily passed over to innocent in-laws and terrorise them to coerce them for a payment of the girls’ misdeeds and follies.
This is not only just my case. My son has joined an NGO called Save Indian Family Foundation, that is dedicated to the cause of creating awareness against this ongoing Legal Terrorism and help its victims. Just in Bangalore, alone every week he says, he gets around 8 - 10 new cases and these are the ones who have somewhere heard about the NGO and approach them for help. There are many many silent victims who are dying a slow death everyday as they have no one to listen to theri woes or help them.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Open Letter to the WCD Minister
To,
Ms. Renuka Choudhury,
Minister, Government of India,
Ministry of Women and Child Development,
Shastri Bhavan `A’ Wing,Dr. Rajendra Prasad Road,
New Delhi-110001
Sub : Review of Domestic Violence Act, 2005 on 25th June 2008
Respected Madam,
This is in connection to the review meeting and the article in Today’s Telegraph: Men wail on Renuka’s shoulders
It is extremely surprising that NONE of the below NGOs fighting for family harmony and male rights have been invited for the 25th June 2008 review meeting on Domestic Violence Act 2005, till date.
Organizations working towards stoppage of misuse of Dowry Laws and Legal Terrorism in India and promoting family and marital harmony
1. Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), Bangalore: 0934285323538/09845143724
2. Save Family Foundation (SFF), Delhi: 9810611534 / 9911119113
3. Gender Human Rights Society, Delhi : 9899329991 / 9811052770
4. Manushi, Delhi : 011-23978851 / 9350041502
5. Men Cell, Delhi : 9810170681 / 9868142608
6. Mothers and Sisters Initiative (MASI), Delhi : 9818454928
7. Save Innocent Mother and Sister (SIMS), Bangalore:09342041382
8. Protect Indian Family (PIF), Mumbai : 09869323538 / 09821414336
9. Men Rights Protection, Mumbai : 09892668560
10. Bharat Bachao Sangathan, Kolkata : 09830151555
11. Protect Men’s Right, Kerala : 09387052990 / 0484230478
12. Sahana, Hyderabad:09848280354 / 09908578457
13. Asha Kiran, Bangalore: 080-65334135
14. Kutumb Rakshna Vedike, Bangalore : 09886934853
15. Protect Men’s Rights, Orissa : 0943708337
16. Pati Pariwar Kalyan Samiti, Lucknow : 09839097522
17. Rakshak, USA/Delhi : 9810452017
18. My Nation, Dubai/USA: 0096-53869295
19. Pirito Purush Pati Parishad Kolkata : 09433094337 / 09231529437
20. All India Forgotten Women, Hyderabad : 09704683163
21. Gujarat Gaurav Raksha Samiti (GGRS) : Vijay Wadhwani
22. The Akhil Bharatiya Patni Atyachaar Virodhi Sangh (ABPAVS), Gujarat
23. Association of Protection of Mens Rights, Chennai
24. Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting, Bangalore (CRISP)
25. Peoples United Relationship Enhancement, Mysore (PURE)
26. Save Indian Family Organisation Rajasthan, Jaipur
27. Purushak Sangrashan Sanstha, Nasik
The websites:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MyNationFoundation
www.saveindianfamily.org
www.mynation.net
www.498a.org
www.protectindianfamily.org
www.siftimes.com
www.savefamily.org
www.vaghelasv.com
www.pariwariksuraksha.org
www.mancell.i8.com
http://killingmarriageforvotes.wordpress.com/report-a-blog/
Various NGOs from the above list have already submitted their memorandums separately in February 2008 on the comments on the review of Domestic Violence Act 2005, and till date NONE of the above NGOs have received the invitation to join the review committee on 25th June 2008.
It is even more surprising then who are these 100 male activists who have been invited in the meeting? An RTI is also being filed to know the credentials of these 100 Male activists, the NGOs to which they belong, the NGOs websites and their memorandums and what have these NGOs done for the male rights till date.
Awaiting an early response from your end as it is already 21st June, 2008 and it take some time for these above NGOs for preparation for the 25th June 2008 Domestic Violence Review Meeting.
Thanking you,
Yours sincerely,
Legal Fighter
A Victim of your Women Centric - Male Hater laws
Ms. Renuka Choudhury,
Minister, Government of India,
Ministry of Women and Child Development,
Shastri Bhavan `A’ Wing,Dr. Rajendra Prasad Road,
New Delhi-110001
Sub : Review of Domestic Violence Act, 2005 on 25th June 2008
Respected Madam,
This is in connection to the review meeting and the article in Today’s Telegraph: Men wail on Renuka’s shoulders
It is extremely surprising that NONE of the below NGOs fighting for family harmony and male rights have been invited for the 25th June 2008 review meeting on Domestic Violence Act 2005, till date.
Organizations working towards stoppage of misuse of Dowry Laws and Legal Terrorism in India and promoting family and marital harmony
1. Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), Bangalore: 0934285323538/09845143724
2. Save Family Foundation (SFF), Delhi: 9810611534 / 9911119113
3. Gender Human Rights Society, Delhi : 9899329991 / 9811052770
4. Manushi, Delhi : 011-23978851 / 9350041502
5. Men Cell, Delhi : 9810170681 / 9868142608
6. Mothers and Sisters Initiative (MASI), Delhi : 9818454928
7. Save Innocent Mother and Sister (SIMS), Bangalore:09342041382
8. Protect Indian Family (PIF), Mumbai : 09869323538 / 09821414336
9. Men Rights Protection, Mumbai : 09892668560
10. Bharat Bachao Sangathan, Kolkata : 09830151555
11. Protect Men’s Right, Kerala : 09387052990 / 0484230478
12. Sahana, Hyderabad:09848280354 / 09908578457
13. Asha Kiran, Bangalore: 080-65334135
14. Kutumb Rakshna Vedike, Bangalore : 09886934853
15. Protect Men’s Rights, Orissa : 0943708337
16. Pati Pariwar Kalyan Samiti, Lucknow : 09839097522
17. Rakshak, USA/Delhi : 9810452017
18. My Nation, Dubai/USA: 0096-53869295
19. Pirito Purush Pati Parishad Kolkata : 09433094337 / 09231529437
20. All India Forgotten Women, Hyderabad : 09704683163
21. Gujarat Gaurav Raksha Samiti (GGRS) : Vijay Wadhwani
22. The Akhil Bharatiya Patni Atyachaar Virodhi Sangh (ABPAVS), Gujarat
23. Association of Protection of Mens Rights, Chennai
24. Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting, Bangalore (CRISP)
25. Peoples United Relationship Enhancement, Mysore (PURE)
26. Save Indian Family Organisation Rajasthan, Jaipur
27. Purushak Sangrashan Sanstha, Nasik
The websites:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MyNationFoundation
www.saveindianfamily.org
www.mynation.net
www.498a.org
www.protectindianfamily.org
www.siftimes.com
www.savefamily.org
www.vaghelasv.com
www.pariwariksuraksha.org
www.mancell.i8.com
http://killingmarriageforvotes.wordpress.com/report-a-blog/
Various NGOs from the above list have already submitted their memorandums separately in February 2008 on the comments on the review of Domestic Violence Act 2005, and till date NONE of the above NGOs have received the invitation to join the review committee on 25th June 2008.
It is even more surprising then who are these 100 male activists who have been invited in the meeting? An RTI is also being filed to know the credentials of these 100 Male activists, the NGOs to which they belong, the NGOs websites and their memorandums and what have these NGOs done for the male rights till date.
Awaiting an early response from your end as it is already 21st June, 2008 and it take some time for these above NGOs for preparation for the 25th June 2008 Domestic Violence Review Meeting.
Thanking you,
Yours sincerely,
Legal Fighter
A Victim of your Women Centric - Male Hater laws
Open Letter to the Director, WCD Ministry, Karnataka
Hello Madam,
As I understand you are the director of Women and Child Development in Karnataka. I would like to put this question to you, as to what is the WCD ministry doing for lakhs of those innocent suffering women who are thrusted to jail on mere allegations (true or false) of mental harassment and torture related to dowry.
I am writing this email from my son’s email id. My name is Neena R Dhulia. I am a 60 year old woman who has to attend court dates every month, here in Bangalore for my estranged Daughter -in - law has filed 3 false cases implicating me, my aged and ailing husband and my 27 year old young son. One case has been filed in Kolkata for which my son has to make monthly trips to Kolkata taking leaves from office. My husband is suffering from asthma, chronic bronchitis and is retired. We are solely dependent on our only son for all expenses.
Here is the brief of the ordeal we went thro’ and are still undergoing and if you do not help us, it will continue without any end.
My son’s was an arranged marriage and it took place on 12th Feb 2007 in Kolkata. No sooner after the marriage it came to forth that the girl, Viral Goda (maiden name) had serious psychological and behavioral problems. She was suffering from extreme mood swing and was used to utter habitual lies. Within just 2 months of the marriage, she went to her parents’ place for some days. My son also booked a flght ticket for her as demanded by her father. After going there, her behavior changed very much. She stopped talking to us and within 2 weeks her father refused to send her back, till her ‘conditions’ are satisfied and refused to disclose the same. After that they went incommunicado over phone. My son could not take leaves from office, so he sent her a plain letter asking her to come back. She did not come back. After about a month or so, my husband went to Kolkata, struggling with his dwindling health, to bring her back.
She insulted him badly in front of our relatives and said that my son will have to sign on 10 of her and 6 of her father’s conditions and then only will she ‘think’ of returning. They did not even disclose their conditions and kept pressurizing for my son to go to Kolkata from Bangalore to sign the conditions. They had visited all our relatives’ place and defamed us so much (and specifically me) with false and concocted stories convincing them so much, that no one came forth to our help. We kept them requesting for an amicable settlement, but they never listened to us. Suddenly on 10th September 2007, they landed at our place with the local police and blamed us for ‘Harassing her for dowry’. This was a totally baseless and false allegation as we are Gujarati Jains and there is no Dowry system in our community. Soon their agenda became clear when they demanded 12 lacs rupees in front of the police for not filing the case. Even the police did not listen to us. My son kept pleading to the officer to give him a chance to present our side of the story. But the police officer was in no mood to listen. He also behaved very badly with me and talked to in a manner very unbecoming of a police officer of the rank of SHO talking to an elderly woman. When we failed to satisfy their illegal demands, they filed the case with the cock and bull story they told the police. We were kept in over night police custody. Next day me and my husband were granted bail on health grounds and my son was sent to the Central Jail for 2 days. They also bribed the PP to object for my son’s bail for at least 15 days. But the learned judge granted bail to my son. It has been almost 10 months now since then and apart from court dates, nothing much has happened. In addition they filed cases on us under Domestic Violence Act 2005, 125 CrPC. She has demanded 30, 000 per month as maintenance in Bangalore in DV Act and 30,000 in maintenance. Already she is getting interim Rs. 2500 per month as maintenance under Domestic Violence Act. All this happened to us just because she is a ‘married woman’ and has cried hoarse of dowry harassment. We were put to jail without trial.
They even got this printed in the Times Of India, pg 3, 13 Sept 2007, Bangalore Edition. Why is the media so biased? Even before the case has gone to trial, they have published the verdict. Why is your department not taking action against such biased media reports?? Such false reports are poisoning our society and strangulating the family system of India. People, knowing that they may get a girl child are heading towards abortion as they fear that there are 80 % chances that their daughter will be killed, kicked, raped or tortured for dowry, as published by UN. Why is your department not taking objection to these false and baseless reports adversely brainwashing the mindset of the common people?
This is just a brief version. There are many more things that happened to us. But what I want to know from you is, does your esteemed ministry consider the mothers and sisters of a married Indian male as women? If it does so, then how come in the last 4 years, 95, 000 innocent women have been arrested on mere complaints, without any trial being conducted and your esteemed department is totally mum about it? The laws meant to protect a woman are working against them. For every complaint of dowry harassment made by one woman, there are on an average 3-4 women who are harassed by the police and later it is found that the matter is settled out of court with payment to girls side to the tune of lacs. One word, DOWRY, a married woman utters in front of the police to hide all her follies and the whole family of the in - laws is devastated and treated worst then hardcore criminals like murderers, rapists, burglars and dacoits. Is this the era of Women Liberation for which such laws were passed ??
Why is it that your department is not vouching to fight against this misuse of dowry laws rather than spreading false statistics. A study conducted by Center for Social Research shows that the misuse is to the tune of 98 %. And yet such a law is let loose for Legal Terrorism to be unleashed on innocent law abiding and honest tax paying citizens of India and that too in today’s era of WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.
Is this what your department calls for WOMEN EMPOWERMENT that when a girl fails to deliver her role in a marriage because of her parents’ faulty upbringing, the blame has to be happily passed over to innocent in-laws and terrorise them to coerce them for a payment of the girls’ misdeeds and follies.
This is not only just my case. My son has joined an NGO called Save Indian Family Foundation, that is dedicated to the cause of creating awareness against this ongoing Legal Terrorism and help its victims. Just in Bangalore, alone every week he says, he gets around 8 - 10 new cases and these are the ones who have somewhere heard about the NGO and approach them for help. There are many many silent victims who are dying a slow death everyday as they have no one to listen to theri woes or help them.
As I understand you are the director of Women and Child Development in Karnataka. I would like to put this question to you, as to what is the WCD ministry doing for lakhs of those innocent suffering women who are thrusted to jail on mere allegations (true or false) of mental harassment and torture related to dowry.
I am writing this email from my son’s email id. My name is Neena R Dhulia. I am a 60 year old woman who has to attend court dates every month, here in Bangalore for my estranged Daughter -in - law has filed 3 false cases implicating me, my aged and ailing husband and my 27 year old young son. One case has been filed in Kolkata for which my son has to make monthly trips to Kolkata taking leaves from office. My husband is suffering from asthma, chronic bronchitis and is retired. We are solely dependent on our only son for all expenses.
Here is the brief of the ordeal we went thro’ and are still undergoing and if you do not help us, it will continue without any end.
My son’s was an arranged marriage and it took place on 12th Feb 2007 in Kolkata. No sooner after the marriage it came to forth that the girl, Viral Goda (maiden name) had serious psychological and behavioral problems. She was suffering from extreme mood swing and was used to utter habitual lies. Within just 2 months of the marriage, she went to her parents’ place for some days. My son also booked a flght ticket for her as demanded by her father. After going there, her behavior changed very much. She stopped talking to us and within 2 weeks her father refused to send her back, till her ‘conditions’ are satisfied and refused to disclose the same. After that they went incommunicado over phone. My son could not take leaves from office, so he sent her a plain letter asking her to come back. She did not come back. After about a month or so, my husband went to Kolkata, struggling with his dwindling health, to bring her back.
She insulted him badly in front of our relatives and said that my son will have to sign on 10 of her and 6 of her father’s conditions and then only will she ‘think’ of returning. They did not even disclose their conditions and kept pressurizing for my son to go to Kolkata from Bangalore to sign the conditions. They had visited all our relatives’ place and defamed us so much (and specifically me) with false and concocted stories convincing them so much, that no one came forth to our help. We kept them requesting for an amicable settlement, but they never listened to us. Suddenly on 10th September 2007, they landed at our place with the local police and blamed us for ‘Harassing her for dowry’. This was a totally baseless and false allegation as we are Gujarati Jains and there is no Dowry system in our community. Soon their agenda became clear when they demanded 12 lacs rupees in front of the police for not filing the case. Even the police did not listen to us. My son kept pleading to the officer to give him a chance to present our side of the story. But the police officer was in no mood to listen. He also behaved very badly with me and talked to in a manner very unbecoming of a police officer of the rank of SHO talking to an elderly woman. When we failed to satisfy their illegal demands, they filed the case with the cock and bull story they told the police. We were kept in over night police custody. Next day me and my husband were granted bail on health grounds and my son was sent to the Central Jail for 2 days. They also bribed the PP to object for my son’s bail for at least 15 days. But the learned judge granted bail to my son. It has been almost 10 months now since then and apart from court dates, nothing much has happened. In addition they filed cases on us under Domestic Violence Act 2005, 125 CrPC. She has demanded 30, 000 per month as maintenance in Bangalore in DV Act and 30,000 in maintenance. Already she is getting interim Rs. 2500 per month as maintenance under Domestic Violence Act. All this happened to us just because she is a ‘married woman’ and has cried hoarse of dowry harassment. We were put to jail without trial.
They even got this printed in the Times Of India, pg 3, 13 Sept 2007, Bangalore Edition. Why is the media so biased? Even before the case has gone to trial, they have published the verdict. Why is your department not taking action against such biased media reports?? Such false reports are poisoning our society and strangulating the family system of India. People, knowing that they may get a girl child are heading towards abortion as they fear that there are 80 % chances that their daughter will be killed, kicked, raped or tortured for dowry, as published by UN. Why is your department not taking objection to these false and baseless reports adversely brainwashing the mindset of the common people?
This is just a brief version. There are many more things that happened to us. But what I want to know from you is, does your esteemed ministry consider the mothers and sisters of a married Indian male as women? If it does so, then how come in the last 4 years, 95, 000 innocent women have been arrested on mere complaints, without any trial being conducted and your esteemed department is totally mum about it? The laws meant to protect a woman are working against them. For every complaint of dowry harassment made by one woman, there are on an average 3-4 women who are harassed by the police and later it is found that the matter is settled out of court with payment to girls side to the tune of lacs. One word, DOWRY, a married woman utters in front of the police to hide all her follies and the whole family of the in - laws is devastated and treated worst then hardcore criminals like murderers, rapists, burglars and dacoits. Is this the era of Women Liberation for which such laws were passed ??
Why is it that your department is not vouching to fight against this misuse of dowry laws rather than spreading false statistics. A study conducted by Center for Social Research shows that the misuse is to the tune of 98 %. And yet such a law is let loose for Legal Terrorism to be unleashed on innocent law abiding and honest tax paying citizens of India and that too in today’s era of WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.
Is this what your department calls for WOMEN EMPOWERMENT that when a girl fails to deliver her role in a marriage because of her parents’ faulty upbringing, the blame has to be happily passed over to innocent in-laws and terrorise them to coerce them for a payment of the girls’ misdeeds and follies.
This is not only just my case. My son has joined an NGO called Save Indian Family Foundation, that is dedicated to the cause of creating awareness against this ongoing Legal Terrorism and help its victims. Just in Bangalore, alone every week he says, he gets around 8 - 10 new cases and these are the ones who have somewhere heard about the NGO and approach them for help. There are many many silent victims who are dying a slow death everyday as they have no one to listen to theri woes or help them.
And they call it a man's world
They say it is a man’s world. I disagree. Since childhood men are discriminated against and made to believe that in order to remain happy in this world they have to please the women around, be it their mother, sister, cousins, wives or girlfriends. All histrionics are women – centric and driven by their moods.
If a woman breaks away from a relationship, she is considered liberated and her action is deemed heroic and hailed by one and all, but the same thing done by a man draws only flak. A man does not even get the consideration that he too might be suffering in the relationship and needed a breakthrough, a benefit of doubt women enjoy ubiquitously and as a de – facto privilege. As far as the woman wants to carry on in the relationship, the man is expected to compromise and make the relation work and when she does not want to do the same, allegations are transferred to the man who has to take the blame of the failed relationship and compensate for the same as well and they call it a man’s world.
If a man breaks away from the relationship, the woman is considered a deserted victim and if a woman deserts a man then also the woman is considered as the liberated victim. If a man continues in an abusive relationship he is called an emotional fool and if a woman continues her commitment is lauded and they call it a man’s world.
If a woman looks for a rich and wealthy man she is considered ambitious and concerned for her future. If a man looks out for a wealthy wife, he is termed greedy. If a man shows slyness towards getting married, he is non – social, non – committal and loose – focused in life, but if a woman does the same she is thinking about her life and career. If a woman passes some lewd comments to a man, she is sportive and courageous, but the same thing done by a man becomes a crime attracting strict penalties and they call it a man’s world.
In the olden days girls were shy to speak of their own feelings and it was considered bad to approach women for relationships and we had laws formulated to protect women and it was called the era of women protection. Slowly women became more outspoken and expressed their feelings more vocally and when they felt like ending relationships and started misusing the same laws meant to protect them, we have now what we are witnessing as Women Empowerment. So where do we see a man’s voice or a say in this?
Earlier when men used to initiate divorces, DIVORCE was considered a bad word and a social taboo. Women were provided protection in the form of alimony and maintenance. Seeing it as an easy route to tax – free money, women started initiating divorces leveling false allegations and DIVORCE is no longer considered a bad word!!! If a man is not willing to divorce his wife, he is said to have caused mental torture to the wife by denying divorce, but if a woman refuses to divorce her husband, she is said to have made attempts to save the marriage and they call it a man’s world.
If a married woman dies, the whole family of the husband is put behind bars and denied bail. They are marked off as criminals and booked under IPC Section 304 B (Dowry Death). If a married man dies, the woman is hailed as the victim and gets everyone’s sympathy. Why is the consideration not given to the possibility of the involvement of his wife in his death, when her death is viewed with an assumption of dowry related torture? Even if there are evidences in favor of the man accused, the same are ignored and he is tried for baseless trial and they call it a man’s world.
Men do the most risky jobs in the society, pay 82 % of taxes in India and yet neither do they have a National Commission of Men to redress their grievances nor a Welfare Ministry to look after them. Even we have animal welfare ministries but not one for men. Men are discriminated against in paying taxes as well, for women have additional tax concessions. Every year 1200 crore Rupees and this year 7200 crore Rupees have been allocated to the women ministry. Of this 82 % is paid by men and the same money is used to frame heavily lopsided laws to frame the same men and defame them and abuse them financially and they call it a man’s world.
Even the media is highly sensitized to women’s issues. A complaint of dowry harassment is lodged and the next day, leading dailies carry the news and print it as if the reporters were staying with the couple and put allegations on the man and his family. But for a man’s case either no coverage is given, or some justification is provided to compensate the wrong – doing happening to the man and they call it a man’s world.
Men are mass brainwashed with this euphoria that it a man’s world and so men need to protect women and in this process all that a man does is viewed with suspicion. It is high time we give a second thought to the thought, “Is it really a man’s world?” And “How difficult is it to be a man?”
If a woman breaks away from a relationship, she is considered liberated and her action is deemed heroic and hailed by one and all, but the same thing done by a man draws only flak. A man does not even get the consideration that he too might be suffering in the relationship and needed a breakthrough, a benefit of doubt women enjoy ubiquitously and as a de – facto privilege. As far as the woman wants to carry on in the relationship, the man is expected to compromise and make the relation work and when she does not want to do the same, allegations are transferred to the man who has to take the blame of the failed relationship and compensate for the same as well and they call it a man’s world.
If a man breaks away from the relationship, the woman is considered a deserted victim and if a woman deserts a man then also the woman is considered as the liberated victim. If a man continues in an abusive relationship he is called an emotional fool and if a woman continues her commitment is lauded and they call it a man’s world.
If a woman looks for a rich and wealthy man she is considered ambitious and concerned for her future. If a man looks out for a wealthy wife, he is termed greedy. If a man shows slyness towards getting married, he is non – social, non – committal and loose – focused in life, but if a woman does the same she is thinking about her life and career. If a woman passes some lewd comments to a man, she is sportive and courageous, but the same thing done by a man becomes a crime attracting strict penalties and they call it a man’s world.
In the olden days girls were shy to speak of their own feelings and it was considered bad to approach women for relationships and we had laws formulated to protect women and it was called the era of women protection. Slowly women became more outspoken and expressed their feelings more vocally and when they felt like ending relationships and started misusing the same laws meant to protect them, we have now what we are witnessing as Women Empowerment. So where do we see a man’s voice or a say in this?
Earlier when men used to initiate divorces, DIVORCE was considered a bad word and a social taboo. Women were provided protection in the form of alimony and maintenance. Seeing it as an easy route to tax – free money, women started initiating divorces leveling false allegations and DIVORCE is no longer considered a bad word!!! If a man is not willing to divorce his wife, he is said to have caused mental torture to the wife by denying divorce, but if a woman refuses to divorce her husband, she is said to have made attempts to save the marriage and they call it a man’s world.
If a married woman dies, the whole family of the husband is put behind bars and denied bail. They are marked off as criminals and booked under IPC Section 304 B (Dowry Death). If a married man dies, the woman is hailed as the victim and gets everyone’s sympathy. Why is the consideration not given to the possibility of the involvement of his wife in his death, when her death is viewed with an assumption of dowry related torture? Even if there are evidences in favor of the man accused, the same are ignored and he is tried for baseless trial and they call it a man’s world.
Men do the most risky jobs in the society, pay 82 % of taxes in India and yet neither do they have a National Commission of Men to redress their grievances nor a Welfare Ministry to look after them. Even we have animal welfare ministries but not one for men. Men are discriminated against in paying taxes as well, for women have additional tax concessions. Every year 1200 crore Rupees and this year 7200 crore Rupees have been allocated to the women ministry. Of this 82 % is paid by men and the same money is used to frame heavily lopsided laws to frame the same men and defame them and abuse them financially and they call it a man’s world.
Even the media is highly sensitized to women’s issues. A complaint of dowry harassment is lodged and the next day, leading dailies carry the news and print it as if the reporters were staying with the couple and put allegations on the man and his family. But for a man’s case either no coverage is given, or some justification is provided to compensate the wrong – doing happening to the man and they call it a man’s world.
Men are mass brainwashed with this euphoria that it a man’s world and so men need to protect women and in this process all that a man does is viewed with suspicion. It is high time we give a second thought to the thought, “Is it really a man’s world?” And “How difficult is it to be a man?”
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